Assumptions

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Karibu mgeni - “Welcome Visitor”

It takes time to get to know another culture. You have to be there and sometimes be uncomfortable and make mistakes.  You have to recognize the assumptions you bring from your own culture that have previously been invisible.  So after my 9th visit to Kenya, here are some of my learning experiences:

 “You are Welcome” (used as greeting)/“Welcome back” / “Welcome Home”

Underlying, these Kenyan greetings is a deep ethic of hospitality.  They are all genuine whether with a close friend or stranger.  You will hear the greeting “You are Welcome” many times during the day.  It creates an atmosphere where relationships can grow.

Relationships take time

In the United States  we look for quick results and relationships.  That is not the way it works in Kenya.  I needed to slow down to the rhythm of this place.  It seems to fit with my advancing age.  The resulting relationships have been a real gift!

Community/Individual

In the United States, the individual is the focus whereas in Kenya the community is the basis of who you are.  For me, it is an important reminder when I return and face the reality of how isolated we can become.

Consensus/Winning

The solution to a problem in Kenya is not by winning but is usually found in consensus.  In the U.S. we see the solution as being “won” by convincing a majority.  Consensus takes time.  

Age 

We are “seniors” in the U.S. and “old” here in Kenya.  “Old” in Kenya is a respected characteristic.  They see in us as a possible vision of their future.  That is both a wonderful gift and a responsibility.

I am sure that more time here will reveal more assumptions that can so easily be hidden.   I am thankful for the opportunity to be part of this wonderful community that has become a  second “home”.

Marvin

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